The In-Between: Where We Become

I have often said—when we’re in the thick of something hard, something we didn’t choose or can’t quite explain—it’s not in that exact moment that we pause and say, “Wow, I’m really learning something here!”

Usually, it’s months… sometimes years… before we can look back and see how much it changed us. How it softened us in the right places and strengthened us in others.

There are chapters of my life I would never want to relive.
Times that were confusing, lonely, or just plain heavy.
At the time, they felt like a mess. Not a transformation. Not a lesson. Just… hard.

But now?
Now I can see that those seasons weren’t wasted. They were preparing me—gently, and sometimes not so gently—to be more empathetic, more grounded, and more aware of what really matters. They gave me insight I never would’ve asked for, but now wouldn’t trade for anything.

So if you’re in one of those in-between spaces right now—
Where you’re no longer who you were, but not yet sure who you’re becoming—
Please hear this:

You’re not lost. You’re just in the becoming.

And while you may not feel it, this space you’re in? It matters.

It’s not something to rush through or bypass. It’s a necessary, sacred part of the journey.

A Few Things That Helped Me in the In-Between Times:

1. Let Yourself Say, "This is hard."

You don’t have to sugarcoat it or pretend to be okay. Some days will feel messy, and some moments will make you question everything. That’s normal. Let yourself name what’s real.

2. Keep A Journal.

Even if you don’t write in it every day, jotting down thoughts or questions you’re wrestling with can help. I’ve found old journal pages years later that reminded me how far I’ve come—and how deeply I was growing, even when I couldn’t see it.

3. Be Kind to Yourself in Ways That Matter.

Not just bubble baths and candles (though those are lovely), but things like: saying no without guilt, reaching out for a real conversation, or allowing yourself to rest without proving your worth.

4. Find Safe Places to Talk.

That’s part of why I started Humble Hearth. Not to fix people. But to create a space where we could talk honestly about what it means to be in between. The quiet ache of change. The tenderness of figuring it out. The small sparks of hope that come when we sit together and say, “I understand.”

If you’re here, reading this, you’ve already taken a step toward honoring where you are.

And maybe that’s enough for today.

You’re not lost.
You’re just in between.
And you belong here.